Avoiding Polite Evasion

The Problem
Here’s what most skilled dentists do:

They bond well with the patient and develop rapport. They spend a lot of time in the exam explaining the treatment that they recommend. They get the patient back for an extra consultation and have prepared a an optimal treatment plan.

The net result: if the patient is not really interested, the patient will most likely be too embarrassed to give an honest ‘no’ because the dentist has spent all this time with them. The dentist has made saying ‘no’ too difficult. So instead we get polite evasion.

At Prime Practice, we define polite evasion as the moment when the patient says they are very interested but then uses a range of tactics to defer treatment indefinitely: (“I need to think.” “I need to talk to my wife”. “I need to check finances” etc). 

The problem is that there is no way to distinguish between real obstacles and polite evasion. We think all the obstacles are real and then we try and deal with these false obstacles.

RELATED ARTICLE: Why Patients Say the Dreaded Four Words: “I’ll Think About It”. 

In the most unfortunate situation, sometimes the patient, who seemed quite happy at the appointment, goes home and thinks it all over. They feel bad that some psychological pressure was put on them. They don’t want the treatment and they didn’t feel comfortable saying so.

Following that, this negativity gets redirected back onto the dentist. The patient starts to tell others how they went to a slick dentist who tried to rip them off. Then when they go to get a second opinion; they relay this story to the new dentist who naturally tries to prove that he is not like the first dentist. He then minimises his treatment offerings for the patient in hopes that they will accept it and proceed – thus adding to the Rejected Dentist Syndrome all over again. 

The Solution
In the patient’s mind, the only essential treatment is the treatment that gets rid of pain. In the dentist’s mind, most of what we do is essential. This might seem like semantics, but this difference forms the root of many problems.

The most common complaints that patients make about dentists is that dentists do treatment that isn’t necessary. To try and convince someone that something ‘is necessary’ is philosophically difficult.

Are teeth necessary? – Millions of people have no teeth and have no dentures.

Are legs necessary? – Kurt Fearnley has no legs, yet he trekked one of the worlds hardest treks; the Kokoda Trek, without legs.

HOWEVER – When we simply come out and tell patients that most of what we do is elective and not essential, something interesting happens. The ownership of the dental condition falls into the patient’s lap and we totally avoid a cascade of problems.

So we can say to our patients that…

“There are so many choices of treatment that it can be difficult for the dentist to simply prescribe a solution. The same condition can have a range of solutions that can spread from spending nothing to spending tens of thousands. For some people the best option is the lowest cost. For others, the best option is what will last the longest. And for some, it’s what looks the best. It’s all elective; I’ll help you understand the choices but its really up to you and I’ll support your choice”.

What does this achieve? 

The patient will never say that we tried to talk them into any unnecessary treatment. We will never be slandered at dinner parties and lumped in with dentists who tried to sell unnecessary treatment. We won’t appear on social media as a ripoff dentist to avoid.

Summary
We create polite evasion by inadvertently making it too difficult for the patient to give us an honest ‘no’.

We are obliged to make recommendations for essential treatment (pain relief and life threatening conditions).

When we try to recommend treatment for conditions that the patient views as elective, we run the risk of appearing to be selling something. Patients are hypersensitive to dentists trying to sell unnecessary treatment. We defuse the whole problem when we make it clear that most of what we do is elective.

Footnote: If you have created appropriate concern regarding the outcome of their dental condition, you will find that the patient now wants a solution badly. The more you tell them the treatment is elective, the more they will insist that they really want it!

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